Recognizing My Whiteness

I remember the first time the twins vocalized their awareness that my skin was a different shade than theirs. The way it played out wrecked me. It was February and we were at Target shopping for bathing suits so they could swim indoors with me at the gym. M stumbled upon the Disney princess bathing … Continue Reading

How to Keep a Relationship From Dying

Sitting next to me at a table in one of my favorite little cafe’s, I recently overheard a woman on the phone complaining to someone about her husband. (I think it was her sister. Eavesdropping is a strength of mine.) From what I could pick up on, this woman felt her marriage was in a … Continue Reading

Unseen

I sit down with a plan to write, but most days I don’t have the energy to recount the day’s memories or retell what we’re in the midst of because that requires reliving it. And right now, living it is hard enough. I don’t want pity or sympathy, but I refuse to sugarcoat it. The … Continue Reading

Beginning Again

Over one month ago now, sweet N came into our lives and flipped our house upside down (quite literally). Shakespeare’s, “Though she be little, she is fierce.” couldn’t be more relevant. N has invaded our hearts, which are now as soft and moldable as the play-dough she stomps into my pretty living room rug. She … Continue Reading

A Home Well Lived In

Several months ago I scribbled “I want a home well lived in“ on a blue sticky note at my kitchen table. I jotted the words down so fast they were hardly legible, but something urged me not to let the thought pass without giving it a permanent place. I stuck it on my desk right next … Continue Reading

Mama, Sort Of.

Never before have I experienced this kind of love. As I’m writing this, it’s been exactly seven days since our world was flipped upside down. “But you asked for this…” my conscious reminds me. “You’re damn right, I did,” my heart and soul snap back. E and I wanted to provide a loving and safe … Continue Reading

Follow Fear

“I’m scared. Scared of losing money, comfort, stability, the changes that would follow…” were the words out of my mouth between gasps for air during my 15-mile run with a friend a couple of weeks ago. (No, 15 is not a typo. This whole training for a marathon thing is kicking me in the rear … Continue Reading

How to Care for You

Self-care is beyond taking a bubble bath or treating yourself to a new outfit. Self-care is knowing your needs – emotionally, physically, spiritually – and doing what it takes to meet them. In other words, it’s treating yourself with the same level of care you treat others. I had no idea just how bad I … Continue Reading

One Choice That Could Radically Improve Your Life & Marriage

How long have you been married? Have you dealt with infertility? Have you moved to a new place far from home? Do you have in-laws who aren’t easy to be around? Are your parents or friends disrespecting boundaries? Do you suffer from anxiety? Are you experiencing financial changes, health problems, or a faith crisis? Have you … Continue Reading

When Something So Natural Won’t Work Naturally [Guest Post]

I met Kristin at my darling friend Rachel’s bachelorette party in Florida. She was strikingly beautiful, outgoing, funny, and, the more I got to chat with her, I recognized a deep kindness and spirit of empathy within her. I told Rach, “Your soon-to-be sister-in-law rocks!” (In fact, all of her sister-in-law’s are so beautiful, inside … Continue Reading