Recognizing My Whiteness

I remember the first time the twins vocalized their awareness that my skin was a different shade than theirs. The way it played out wrecked me. It was February and we were at Target shopping for bathing suits so they could swim indoors with me at the gym. M stumbled upon the Disney princess bathing … Continue Reading

How to Keep a Relationship From Dying

Sitting next to me at a table in one of my favorite little cafe’s, I recently overheard a woman on the phone complaining to someone about her husband. (I think it was her sister. Eavesdropping is a strength of mine.) From what I could pick up on, this woman felt her marriage was in a … Continue Reading

Unseen

I sit down with a plan to write, but most days I don’t have the energy to recount the day’s memories or retell what we’re in the midst of because that requires reliving it. And right now, living it is hard enough. I don’t want pity or sympathy, but I refuse to sugarcoat it. The … Continue Reading

19 Things I Did (Or Didn’t Do) in 2017

Since my post 19 Things I Did (Or Didn’t Do) was a favorite last year, I figured I would share 19 things I did, or didn’t, do in 2017. Keep in mind, this is meant to be a quick reflection. Overthinking it will just lead to the desire to impress. (And #ImpressingIsExhausting.) If you want to … Continue Reading

8 Steps To Your Best Year Yet

I’ve been reflecting a lot lately on change. Not a change of clothes or the change you get back from the vending machine. Change. The kind that is true, lasting, and transformational. Change that is happening over time, with a series of decisions to support it, brought on with intention. People get amped up towards … Continue Reading

A Home Well Lived In

Several months ago I scribbled “I want a home well lived in“ on a blue sticky note at my kitchen table. I jotted the words down so fast they were hardly legible, but something urged me not to let the thought pass without giving it a permanent place. I stuck it on my desk right next … Continue Reading

Mama, Sort Of.

Never before have I experienced this kind of love. As I’m writing this, it’s been exactly seven days since our world was flipped upside down. “But you asked for this…” my conscious reminds me. “You’re damn right, I did,” my heart and soul snap back. E and I wanted to provide a loving and safe … Continue Reading

Does God Like Me?

This morning I woke up in New Buffalo, Michigan. I slept in a queen sized bed next to my husband, sharing the room with two other guys on twin beds. There are 14 other people spread out amongst this beautiful Airbnb, which situated perfectly between full, green branches on tall trees, enhancing it’s woodsy, cabin-like … Continue Reading

Follow Fear

“I’m scared. Scared of losing money, comfort, stability, the changes that would follow…” were the words out of my mouth between gasps for air during my 15-mile run with a friend a couple of weeks ago. (No, 15 is not a typo. This whole training for a marathon thing is kicking me in the rear … Continue Reading

How to Care for You

Self-care is beyond taking a bubble bath or treating yourself to a new outfit. Self-care is knowing your needs – emotionally, physically, spiritually – and doing what it takes to meet them. In other words, it’s treating yourself with the same level of care you treat others. I had no idea just how bad I … Continue Reading