Let me start with this…
How to stay in a relationship you’ve outgrown:
Ignore your heart. Fake it. Keep going through the motions. Stay because it’s better than being alone. Remember every good memory and justify the bad ones. Make excuses for all of the toxic words and behaviors. Don’t challenge them. Never say anything to hurt their ego. Avoid confrontation at all cost. Don’t listen to the advice of your close friends. Stay because it’s comfortable and familiar. Pretend you can’t see what’s happening right before your eyes. Ignore that little voice whispering at you to leave. Believe that you will be the one to change them. Dream up a false reality. You can do it, you can stay. The choice is up to you.
But let me tell you what I would do because I have been in your shoes. I’ve been where you are right now and more than once.
So this one’s for you. Single or dating, you’re the girl who’s unhappy, uncertain, and frustrated with your relationship or past relationship(s).
How to get out:
Ask yourself if the relationship is making you a better person. Ask yourself if that person is one of the best people you know. Ask yourself if the way he treats you is how you’d want your daughter to someday be treated by her boyfriend. Grace is a beautiful thing, but if there’s repeated abuse (physical or verbal) that’s the only red flag you need to simply cut ties and walk away.
So the next time your ex asks ‘what’s up?’ Don’t be afraid to say ‘my standards.’