7 Things I Would Do Differently as a New Foster Parent

Today marks the one year anniversary of receiving our first child. I will never forget the nerves or excitement I had going into the parking lot where we were told to meet for the pick-up. She was tiny. And beautiful. 3-years-old, looking at me like I was a crazy lady for talking to her in such … Continue Reading

Recognizing My Whiteness

I remember the first time the twins vocalized their awareness that my skin was a different shade than theirs. The way it played out wrecked me. It was February and we were at Target shopping for bathing suits so they could swim indoors with me at the gym. M stumbled upon the Disney princess bathing … Continue Reading

How to Keep a Relationship From Dying

Sitting next to me at a table in one of my favorite little cafe’s, I recently overheard a woman on the phone complaining to someone about her husband. (I think it was her sister. Eavesdropping is a strength of mine.) From what I could pick up on, this woman felt her marriage was in a … Continue Reading

Unseen

I sit down with a plan to write, but most days I don’t have the energy to recount the day’s memories or retell what we’re in the midst of because that requires reliving it. And right now, living it is hard enough. I don’t want pity or sympathy, but I refuse to sugarcoat it. The … Continue Reading

19 Things I Did (Or Didn’t Do) in 2017

Since my post 19 Things I Did (Or Didn’t Do) was a favorite last year, I figured I would share 19 things I did, or didn’t, do in 2017. Keep in mind, this is meant to be a quick reflection. Overthinking it will just lead to the desire to impress. (And #ImpressingIsExhausting.) If you want to … Continue Reading

8 Steps To Your Best Year Yet

I’ve been reflecting a lot lately on change. Not a change of clothes or the change you get back from the vending machine. Change. The kind that is true, lasting, and transformational. Change that is happening over time, with a series of decisions to support it, brought on with intention. People get amped up towards … Continue Reading

Beginning Again

Over one month ago now, sweet N came into our lives and flipped our house upside down (quite literally). Shakespeare’s, “Though she be little, she is fierce.” couldn’t be more relevant. N has invaded our hearts, which are now as soft and moldable as the play-dough she stomps into my pretty living room rug. She … Continue Reading

A Home Well Lived In

Several months ago I scribbled “I want a home well lived in“ on a blue sticky note at my kitchen table. I jotted the words down so fast they were hardly legible, but something urged me not to let the thought pass without giving it a permanent place. I stuck it on my desk right next … Continue Reading

Mama, Sort Of.

Never before have I experienced this kind of love. As I’m writing this, it’s been exactly seven days since our world was flipped upside down. “But you asked for this…” my conscious reminds me. “You’re damn right, I did,” my heart and soul snap back. E and I wanted to provide a loving and safe … Continue Reading

Does God Like Me?

This morning I woke up in New Buffalo, Michigan. I slept in a queen sized bed next to my husband, sharing the room with two other guys on twin beds. There are 14 other people spread out amongst this beautiful Airbnb, which situated perfectly between full, green branches on tall trees, enhancing it’s woodsy, cabin-like … Continue Reading

Follow Fear

“I’m scared. Scared of losing money, comfort, stability, the changes that would follow…” were the words out of my mouth between gasps for air during my 15-mile run with a friend a couple of weeks ago. (No, 15 is not a typo. This whole training for a marathon thing is kicking me in the rear … Continue Reading

How to Care for You

Self-care is beyond taking a bubble bath or treating yourself to a new outfit. Self-care is knowing your needs – emotionally, physically, spiritually – and doing what it takes to meet them. In other words, it’s treating yourself with the same level of care you treat others. I had no idea just how bad I … Continue Reading

One Choice That Could Radically Improve Your Life & Marriage

How long have you been married? Have you dealt with infertility? Have you moved to a new place far from home? Do you have in-laws who aren’t easy to be around? Are your parents or friends disrespecting boundaries? Do you suffer from anxiety? Are you experiencing financial changes, health problems, or a faith crisis? Have you … Continue Reading

When God Asks You to Run a Marathon

I didn’t want to wake up at six o’clock. I didn’t want to run one mile, let alone 12. However, I did it and left with no regrets. Did it hurt? Heck yes, these hips and knees are feeling closer to 30 than 20 with each passing day. Am I eager to do it again? … Continue Reading

Iceland Should Move to the Top of Your Bucket List

When E and I flipped a coin to determine our next vacation destination, truthfully, I was super disappointed that he won and chose Iceland of all places! I mean, my dream vacation doesn’t require a coat and nearly always involves Español and margaritas by the pool. Iceland was about to be the exact opposite of everything … Continue Reading

When Something So Natural Won’t Work Naturally [Guest Post]

I met Kristin at my darling friend Rachel’s bachelorette party in Florida. She was strikingly beautiful, outgoing, funny, and, the more I got to chat with her, I recognized a deep kindness and spirit of empathy within her. I told Rach, “Your soon-to-be sister-in-law rocks!” (In fact, all of her sister-in-law’s are so beautiful, inside … Continue Reading

Church, the Bible, and Four Small Words (a Book Recommendation)

When E and I first moved to Chicago in August, we set out to find a church we could both feel at home. Little did we know it would be the very first place we tried out: Soul City Church. The funny thing is that Jarrett and Jeanne Stevens, the lead pastors, were on a … Continue Reading

Roses & Love Sap (An Interview with My Husband)

Some people are super into Valentines Day, but I’m just here for the chocolate if we’re being honest. I decided instead of doing a cliche list of “8 things to buy your significant other for Valentines Day” I would have a lighthearted interview with my husband. I hope you enjoy it. 😉  This post sponsored by … Continue Reading

More Than the Trend: Why Jesus and Minimalism Go Hand in Hand

When E and I first got married we settled on a “life motto” to live by together– “When you have more than you need, build a longer table, not a higher fence.” It’s kind of mind blowing when I think about who I used to be. Do you ever do that? Catch yourself staring at an … Continue Reading

Gray

I haven’t always welcomed other beliefs, but it was my husband who, in his own season of doubt and unbelief, inspired me to ask hard questions and dig deeper. Who’s to say that the God I believe in isn’t the same God as the one somebody else prays to by a different name? Who’s to … Continue Reading

Choosing Real

Hello 2017, You’ve been a bit of a disappointment. I ran into your arms at the pace of my 6th grade skinny-self while 2016’s shadow lingered behind. I hoped you’d be a net of safety and comfort; a fresh start. But who was I kidding? You came, but not without my sassy attitude and negative feelings. I … Continue Reading

When My Eyes Met The Tree Tops

Rebelling, taking the easy route, letting selfishness rule. These three, I tell ya. They’re attractive, tempting, and as natural as a chocolate covered long-john doughnut hitting my lips. I’ve heard we’re the sum of the five people we spend time with most. E, my goofy groom, is obviously the top person I spend time with by far. … Continue Reading

The Upshot of a Weekend Well Spent

My goodness, sometimes I have so many things I want to say that I don’t no where to begin. I could start by telling you all about my recent meet-ups with readers and women I’ve connected with online. I could tell you about how E and I didn’t end up getting a Christmas tree this year … Continue Reading

19 Things I Did (Or Didn’t Do) This Year

She wrote it as an announcement; a praise of thanksgiving. (Truth is, I probably would’ve done the exact same myself. A hard pill to swallow.) Burning, my eyes read the caption beneath her perfect photograph: “2016: I got married, we bought our first house, remodeled, moved into our new home, launched my online boutique, and announced WE’RE PREGNANT!!! What … Continue Reading